Mac and Mike discuss the losses in their lives and how they affected them. Trying to understand why God allows such suffering is trying to understand a mathematical problem you have no idea how to solve.

Saying “I understand how you feel.” or “They are at peace now and in a better place.” may not help. It can even raise the ire of some individuals. Even if you have experienced something just as horrific their pain is fresh. It may be true that their loved one is in a better place. However, that does not always comfort the person grieving. It is their loss that causes grief, not the condition of the lost loved one.

I use an imperfect analogy to explain loss and grief. Imagine the love of your life playing the lottery and winning millions. If they move into a mansion and leave you then you are the one left alone to grieve the loss. Remember, I said this was an imperfect analogy. The point is sometimes the best you can do is simply listen.